tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13611612.post8968423706749478745..comments2023-11-05T05:12:52.866-05:00Comments on The Cheese Party: GhostAmy Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10192876795169234755noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13611612.post-91498360665858369322008-01-07T14:09:00.000-05:002008-01-07T14:09:00.000-05:00One of my college roommates died in a car accident...One of my college roommates died in a car accident a few years ago. I was forced to choose between going to her funeral in one state or attending another friend's wedding in another (where I was to be a bridesmaid). I chose life because I thought that's what L. would have wanted. It wasn't until I visited her grave months later, however, that I was able to truly let go of the grief and the trauma of that decision. Now I can look back on all the good, all the jokes, all the happy times we had together. It doesn't make the loss any easier, but it does help to lay down some of the other baggage so you can more easily carry her memory. <BR/><BR/>It won't be easy, but I think it will be worth it.High Heeled Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01911294747315920862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13611612.post-14168521794139238792008-01-06T20:11:00.000-05:002008-01-06T20:11:00.000-05:00Avoiding grief is never a good thing. Sometimes pa...Avoiding grief is never a good thing. Sometimes parents keep kids away from closure events like burials and I don't think it does them any favours. You have held this inside too long. How is it helping you? Go and see her and then let her go....Arizaphalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11402602175460446158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13611612.post-91109257940937920652008-01-05T14:17:00.000-05:002008-01-05T14:17:00.000-05:00I agree, and couldn't have said anything more true...I agree, and couldn't have said anything more true than Mrs. Chicken. Go say hello.Rinnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07093784707368312564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13611612.post-79448058844335961562008-01-04T17:00:00.000-05:002008-01-04T17:00:00.000-05:00I can't imagine this happening at such an importan...I can't imagine this happening at such an important crossroads in your life. Almost 13 is such a hard time on it's own.<BR/><BR/>You may feel better when you go see her. My sister and brother can't go to the cemetery to see my father, but whenever I go I am filled with a sense of peace that is hard for me to achieve anywhere else. And the bells of the chapel <I>always</I> ring when I am there. I think it is him saying hello.<BR/><BR/>Go say hello. She'll hear you.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11342425698876916791noreply@blogger.com